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Dear Readers Time to put on our thinking hats, let's journey down the rabbit hole 🐇we will cover the remaining elements of self-love and how becoming STRATEGIC helps you on your journey towards self discovery......... Let's recap: S- Speech T- Temperament R- Realism A- Accountability T- Transparency E- Encouragement G- Gravitation I- Idealism C- Cooperation If you apply the strategic concept you will crack the code to self-love because this form of being covers you not only on an intellectual level but soul level as well. It creates a new way of thinking and living that is more in alignment with being authentically YOU. So let's get to it: 🔑🔓 *previous post covers the first 4 elements......this post is a continuation 👇 Transparency  - is the quality of being in an open way without secrets. This means you need transparency within yourself and with others, transparency from others is hard as we all operate from our own mental conditioning and some people enjoy living in...

Dear Readers We have come to the final part of the first 7 rules in your self – development journey. Before we put on our thinking hats and go back down the rabbit hole let’s recap what the rules were all about: Rule No 1 - God first  (testimony opens up higher consciousness) Rule No 2 – Know thyself (provides a self-assessment on oneself) Rule No 3 – Crack the code to distractions (blocking the paths that bind you and mental clarity) Rule No 4 – Forgiveness (breaking down false beliefs creating new foundations) Rule No 5 – People hierarchy (setting boundaries and protecting oneself) Rule No 6 – Be more reflective, less observant (courage for inner journey and detecting flaws) Rule No 7 - Reprogramming your self-love radar (unconditional love and recalibrating thoughts) We will be exploring these rules in 7 parts, 7 rules for you and 7 rules for others......Reason why I did a recap is these are rules for you alone, my next set of rules will be all about others, yes,...

Dear Readers  Time to put on our thinking hats and journey down the rabbit hole.....we have come to the final part of rule No 6. Let's talk about the experiences you will go through when you decide to take the journey inward, remember going inward doesn't involve relaxing in bed and listening to music, or watching TV and thinking about your life, if you do it that way, you are still giving your time and attention to music and TV and no real journey will happen, it will be a fake form of reflecting.  Let's go deeper: If you did the exercise of making notes and reflecting on your day you probably picked up on some areas that needs more work than others, the interactions that make you uncomfortable are the ones you should be paying attention to. When you place yourself as the main character of your story something happens within, it ignites a spark you never knew you had, the spark of "awareness" when you start becoming truly aware, you WAKE UP.....everything and eve...

Dear Readers  Time to go back down the rabbit hole let's journey into self discovery. We have come to part 2 of rule no 6. The journey inward is very important if you want to undo all your conditioning, remember conditioning is extrospective which is examining and processing what is outside yourself but if you take the first step and become introspective which is looking inward trying to understand what goes on in your mind, thoughts, feelings and inner workings you will begin to notice just how powerful this way of being can be.  Let's put on our thinking hats: Going inward doesn't require much, you don't need to go and hire the world's greatest for it....nope....it's actually simple.....becoming reflective is about small exercises like thinking about your day but thinking about it on a deeper level, you can do it in your mind or get yourself a book to write in, doesn't matter.....do what works for you, make yourself comfortable it's your inner journey ...

Dear Readers  We have come to rule No 6 on our journey to self discovery, "become more reflective and less observant" , if you think about it we form thoughts, behaviors, choices and actions over being observant of what we see around us, which is normal, but if you want to see another layer of your true self you need to become more reflective of your inner being rather than focusing on what's happening around you.  Most say I know myself fairly well, but do you really know yourself? Let me put it this way, if you know yourself well, then you would stay away from anything that causes you hurt, you would also be living in a way where you don't hurt others, you would have the "to hurt another is to hurt oneself" effect because you would be sure of yourself and you also understand that we all are connected in some way you would also be living in the ultimate best version of YOU! Yet the opposite happens with us, and since we don't have the power to change it...

Dear Readers  Time to go back down the rabbit hole, put on your thinking hats, we have come to our 5th rule which is very important if you truly want to develop to a better YOU. Rule Number 5_ your people hierarchy, the people that are in your life play a big role in how you live yours, I will explain further: You have to take inventory of the company you surround yourself with, if you don't, you will have no direction of what you are all about and follow the direction of what people are all about. We are not here to be copy cats of one another we are here to shine in our own unique way, living out our purpose that God has set for us, but you will never come to know your soul or your purpose if you don't start making changes, and one of the changes involves scanning the type of people in your life, if you surround yourself with a crowd who is all about gossiping, I will tell you that this crowd is a hopeless set of people with nothing better to do with their time, they have no ...

Dear Readers  We have come to the final step in forgiveness, knowledge is power so time to put on your thinking hats and as always let's get to it, I like to call our journey to self discovery going back down the rabbit hole so everytime you apply a rule in your life just know your that bunny stepping into the rabbit hole and I can assure you the end result will be worth it, here's the thing,,,,,everyone has problems, challenges and troubles that they live with but the ones who are truly wise choose to share that misery with Our Divine and He returns the favor by healing you and covering you with a shield that becomes unbreakable for future obstacles to come! And that is how you level up in connecting your own unique wire to the ONE SOURCE and Creator of all. Time to go deeper, the reason why I say forgiveness will never be fully completed in your life is the fact that your leaving out a critical ingredient to forgiveness.....forgiving your "conditioning" which is cau...

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Dear Readers The time has come to put on your thinking hats so let’s get to it: In today’s post we will look at forgiving yourself, which most struggle with because we now live in a society where forgiving yourself, accepting the flaws that you have or had as well as your weaknesses is looked down upon, we are programmed by the environment we live in, events that happen in our lives, people’s opinion and upbringing that causes us to block out forgiving oneself. As you can see many external factors at play here, which makes forgiveness a challenge for most. Time to go deeper: We have a thing within us called EGO, I like to call EGO the devil’s gift! We are not born with Ego, it is created and manifested in thoughts and actions. Ego is a big ingredient in sabotaging YOU from forgiving yourself and others, it also impacts your gateway to your higher self. Here is why ego will get in the way, Ego makes you feel entitled, forgetting that we need to go through challenges in our lif...

Dear Readers  We have come to rule No 4 Forgiveness to everything including yourself. I can say from my side that this rule is a tough one, but it is a step you need to take on your journey to self discovery and here's why: It's a decision you will teach your mind to accept and with enough repetition your emotions towards the person or matter will lose it's trigger and those strong emotions will slowly start to die off, you will open your mind to a broader understanding of how pointless it is to attach feelings or thoughts to past or current people in your life that causes emotions you don't want to surface. If you are embarrassed or ashamed of a certain emotion or behaviour then it's YOUR SIGNAL to focus on that weakness, understand why you can't forgive that person, what is truly holding you back from forgiving as well as why it's hard to let go and just forgive. The end result still remains unchanged, that person or life will continue as usual regardless ...

Dear Readers 👋  I love sharing because sharing is caring so as always....... Time to put on your thinking hats and let's get to it: 🤫😀👇 You get 6 different types of thinking hats applied in business, this role playing mode was created by a genius mind Edward Do Bono back in 1986,  However this is a great tool to psychologically understand people's ways of thinking, the mindset morals values and beliefs they hold and basically what they are all about, see the thing is people reveal to you who they are, you just gotta become aware of the signs and only then can you learn to live in peace with people who annoy or bring you to agitation,,,, Time to unlock to free thinking: Accepting the different thinking hats blocks disagreements that happen when people with different thinking styles discuss same issues, approaching the conversation from this particular point of view helps people move outside their usual thinking styles and helps one get a broader understanding of the situati...

Dear Readers  The time has come for ladies to become aware of what playtime distractions are really doing to you, as always let's get to it: Playtime distractions for the ladies, social media, make up and exercise tutorials, fashion, men and more men, friends, gossiping, time wasting and pointless talks, chasing money and followers, behaving in a goon manner (we will go more in depth on gooning in a later post) fighting and competing with one another being jealous , feeling depressed or unworthy, as you can see the list can carry on for days.....but you get my point! These playtime distractions is killing every part of you that wants to flourish. Time to put on your thinking hats 👒 👌 😉 😌 🤔  When us ladies are on social media we can feel so lost and depressed, we lose our identity and question who we are or we end up not feeling good enough. Here is where you are going wrong with your playtime distractions: You are feeding your focus with content and info that serves other...

How to conquer negative thoughts in your mind..... knowledge is power so here is my understanding of conquering negative thoughts  The time has come to put on your thinking hats and think a little deeper than usual.....so let's get to it...... Negative thoughts don't just manifest by itself,,,it is created, and what is the source of this creation, 🤔 you will not believe..... Most of your Negative thoughts is coming from the outside world, your interactions with people, the experiences you've been through and also what you think about yourself as a whole,  Let's go deeper: You will not feel shitty about yourself unless someone rejects you am I right? But when people love you then you can't help but think good things about yourself,  So here is the secret to conquering your negative thoughts: Start questioning those thoughts, challenge them in your mind, no you will not be crazy for that 😜 😉 trust me..... our brain has signals called neurotransmitters and everytime...

 Dear Readers We have come to the final part of Rule No 3 Crack the code to distractions, PLAYTIME DISTRACTIONS   I will cover the men in today's post  So as always let's get to it....... I picked this just for the men as I feel it resonates to guys the most, so there's your quote to get your thinking hats going deeper..... Let's move on.....playtime distractions for the men.....let's name them: Chick's,cars,motivational goals,bro codes,fashion,gyming and and..... So how does this come into ruining your life, I will tell you,  Your playtime distractions will fog your thinking and keep you asleep from what you truly want to achieve in your life..... Most of the complaints from men are about women cheating, befriending men, becoming shameless and disrespectful or being gold diggers, let me ask you why you complaining? Your secret distractions are the very same things you complain about..... Let's go deeper, you want nice cars, the vroo paas and and, you also w...

Dear Readers We have arrived at our second part to rule No 3  Crack the code to distractions.... Today I'm going to cover personal distractions, so as promised let's get to it..... There's something called urge surfing 🏄‍♀️ 🌊 yes it exists in all of us let me explain further cos knowledge is power and when you give your mind the scope to understand and put a label to an issue, working on it becomes natural, you will see for yourself, so back to urge surfing, definition: Urge surfing refers to a mental technique of observing an urge without engaging in it How is this technique a secret to conquering personal distractions let me explain further: For example your on social media browsing through your feeds, this can make you feel a certain type of way, but it can be controlled and put back into its place by adapting the urge surfing technique,  So how do you apply urge surfing technique 🤔 😏 that is easy......learn to sit with your feelings, if you feeling like ...