Part Four Rule No 3 _ Crack the code to distractions

Dear Readers 

The time has come for ladies to become aware of what playtime distractions are really doing to you, as always let's get to it:

Playtime distractions for the ladies, social media, make up and exercise tutorials, fashion, men and more men, friends, gossiping, time wasting and pointless talks, chasing money and followers, behaving in a goon manner (we will go more in depth on gooning in a later post) fighting and competing with one another being jealous , feeling depressed or unworthy, as you can see the list can carry on for days.....but you get my point!

These playtime distractions is killing every part of you that wants to flourish. Time to put on your thinking hats 👒 👌 😉 😌 🤔 

When us ladies are on social media we can feel so lost and depressed, we lose our identity and question who we are or we end up not feeling good enough. Here is where you are going wrong with your playtime distractions:

You are feeding your focus with content and info that serves others but not you! Let's go deeper;

We have friends we browse social media, we can feel obligated to like or comment on posts, that is serving others not you, if a certain post touches you on the inside then by all means love and comment as much as you want but make sure you take inventory of the type of content your feeding your mind, we can also browse and end up feeling jealous or unworthy, the need to compete arises or to be better. I am here to tell you the truth, cos knowledge is power 🔋 💪 👌 

These distractions don't serve you, your purpose or your journey to self discovery, it only serves the recipient of the comment or like, take the focus off social media and people and bring it back to you!

Ladies you don't need to feel unworthy, unloved,  not good enough because the truth is WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE AND WE ALL NEED TO SHINE IN OUR OWN WAY! Copying one another, competing or beating yourself up over people (ex's, family, friends, colleagues  whoever) social media pressures whatever is causing you to feel or think in a way that makes you a copycat instead of an original brings out a fake part of you not the real YOU!

You need to just be yourself ladies, get to know YOU, learn to invest in what your good at and start creating a distraction that is going to enhance you to be YOU only, not a reflection of others or social media trends, if you want to know why being a copycat will not serve you I will tell you " there will always be someone better, or the trend will eventually fade out" don't make your focus toning and shaping your ass, wearing the best make up or chasing looking completely fake that when all of that comes off you look like another person, 💯! Not only is all of that too expensive to maintain, men eventually get tired of the fakeness and start to want a women of substance in their life, that is where the mind of a women will come into play, he will want someone who can think not just look good the whole time, someone who can deal!

Make your focus on toning and shaping your weaknesses, the parts of you that don't serve you or help you grow, your morals and values, what you true beliefs really are , focus on your relationship with God, your spouse, your kids, your family and friends your colleagues and I mean true relationships not social media relationships, spend real quality time with them! Here is why changing this distractions will serve you. YOU will take the first step on your journey to self discovery, you will end up not really paying attention to other people's lives and what they are doing, you may even get bored but that boredom will lead you to question yourself on what now? When you get to that level of questioning you are well on your way to self discovery, you will naturally go within and come to realize that men will always value intelligence, independence, integrity, elegance, morality and respect over any other substance a lady may possess. Ladies remember this TRUE LOVE CANNOT BE CAUGHT OR STOLEN and an original is worth more than a copy, start to think out of the box, for yourself and not by what others tell you! When you live your truth as a women and just be yourself I can assure you the world will adjust and the people who are meant to be in your life, who God truly wants for you and who is meant to bring out the best in you will come naturally. Love isn't random, we are chosen, God knows who our partner is so don't worry about chasing someone, God got you, He will send you your partner when the time is right, when you are the flourishing version of you people will naturally be drawn to you. That is God's work! 

If you want true playtime distraction tips here it is:

GO AND READ A BOOK 📖 I'm not kidding on this one! What you feed your brain gets stored in your memory , so if you read a book about men for example your brain will store information according to what relates to you and your experiences and you will understand and truly feel what you are reading then you get your light bulb moment so the next time you see a man with red flags you turn the other way and walk! You become aware, another benefit to reading your vocabulary increases, you spell correctly and you open yourself up to a broader view of the Authors message and all these distractions you had before starts to look trivial.

When you change your distractions back to yourself and leave people and trendy things alone, your true form will come into play, and jealousy, depression, bitterness, anger, regret whatever your feeling will slowly begin to lose its power over you and die off ♥️ ✨️ as women we get hurt so much and we need to be there for one another, we need to encourage motivate and help one another become originals.

I will end of with this, the most VALUABLE tip I can give ladies that will truly change your life is get to know God and what HE is all about, learn to put God first in your life and see how HE paves the way for you to become all that best for you. Ladies God's plan for you is always the best plan to have! 💯

A caring heart and a true identity of oneself will always be valued over all. So ladies focus on God and yourself, become and observer instead of an entertainer and you will see the changes come naturally, because the door to your true self is now open and your journey to self discovery will begin ✨️ 

Remember this when you feel down...

Until next time.....Firi_B