Part Two Rule No 4_ Forgiveness to everything including yourself

Dear Readers

The time has come to put on your thinking hats so let’s get to it:

In today’s post we will look at forgiving yourself, which most struggle with because we now live in a society where forgiving yourself, accepting the flaws that you have or had as well as your weaknesses is looked down upon, we are programmed by the environment we live in, events that happen in our lives, people’s opinion and upbringing that causes us to block out forgiving oneself. As you can see many external factors at play here, which makes forgiveness a challenge for most.

Time to go deeper:

We have a thing within us called EGO, I like to call EGO the devil’s gift! We are not born with Ego, it is created and manifested in thoughts and actions. Ego is a big ingredient in sabotaging YOU from forgiving yourself and others, it also impacts your gateway to your higher self. Here is why ego will get in the way,

Ego makes you feel entitled, forgetting that we need to go through challenges in our life to KILL the ego. Challenges will either feed ego or question ego, for example:

Your interactions with people and the world can cause you to be unforgiving to yourself because most people find it easy to highlight what you have done even if it was 20 years ago. This type of narrative only invests in keeping you stuck, you will think about all their rubbish comments that they talk through their blind mouths, I call them blind mouths because they are bread from a negative environment and their mouths and tongue are only capable of talking bad things about a person, never good, you need to learn about people and their ways of thinking, when you can get to that level you can start questioning the validity of their opinions. Keep in mind most people judge by physical, your actions and what they see, but Our Lord judges us in Heart and Spirit which is really the true form of who we are.

You remain stuck with the projection of other’s opinions or ill feelings and you end up suffering with an emotional turmoil that just gets worse over time. It will continue getting worse so long as you stay ignorant to it. How can you pause your higher self, your dreams and aspirations, your relationship to God over not being able to forgive yourself? If you want to be closer to our Lord then you must learn to forgive and love yourself because that is the electrical bolt that will connect you to HIM. HE is the divine energy and if you choose to keep your spirit in chains with unforgiveness then how do you expect God to connect to you or grant you the wisdom that you need to understand why events played out the way it did, what it taught you, and the acceptance of "you just didn’t know any better at the time". This example is given from the perspective of not being able to forgive oneself, your usual thinking process and how it gets in the way.

So here is your homework:

For the next week replay the events that caused you to be unforgiving to yourself, try to understand why you carry all the guilt, torturing yourself over what you didn’t know at the time, of how the action would cause the reaction of pain to others and understand that YOU are not 100% responsible for the event. The memory will obviously include another person that was hurt by you, so how can you hold yourself 100% responsible for the wrong that was caused. However, if you did your part of changing to a better you then I don’t see a problem in forgiving yourself, investing in You and to the ones we have hurt allow them to do as they wish, whether they choose to forgive us or not we will just wish them well and continue our journey because the battle will always remain within you not between you and others. Society has made us believe that the battle remains with others, but it is truly yourself that hinders YOU, not others. We all have free will. It is how you choose to act on it that matters.

The next step would be looking in the mirror on a daily and affirming to you that you truly forgive you, some will cry when they do this, I highly suggest letting it flow, cry until you are fed up of it, the reason you will end up crying when you say this to yourself is because you are in the 1^st process of acknowledging and understanding, after you go through the emotions of it all, new thoughts and ideas will start to surface, I also suggest going with this process too.

Some won’t feel much when they do it, and it will seem fake at first, just continue with the daily affirmation and I can guarantee new thoughts will also start to surface for the one who doesn’t get emotional over it.

Some won’t bother to do this exercise and may think of it as dumb, that’s ok you may continue sleeping I am not here for you I am only here for the ones who truly want to develop to all they can be.

The bottom line to all of this is when you can learn to forgive yourself you will open new doors for you that will only lead you to your higher good.

Until next time Firi_B